P is two months home. We are all adjusting. In many ways his transition has been smooth - Thank you, Lord! We are certainly already benefiting from the rich blessing the addition of another child in the home brings. But, as with each addition through adoption there is the challenge of overcoming broken trust and forming attachment which only results from the experience of quality time. We continue to trust God to fill our home with healing and to restore the brokenhearted.
It has been my experience that there is a lot of pain in adoption. Pain from unfortunate events of the past and pain in dealing with loss. I hear people often say things like "if they were adopted at birth or at such a young age then they'll be fine, they won't remember and they won't suffer or experience pain due to adoption". The truth is adoption always results from a place of tragedy. Children are meant to be raised in their birth families. Therefore in adoption there is always an element of loss and as a result the life is affected regardless of their age at adoption. Adopted children (with the knowledge of their adoption) will eventually face and deal with the loss. For some it will be a difficult road of processing their feelings around the reality of their past resulting in adoption. Some may welcome it and be full of gratitude for the new life they lead; while others may reject the idea all together and attempt avoiding even the thought of it. And then there are the ups and downs of the in-between for many other adopted children unsure of their feelings surrounding their past and the reality of their adoption. The variables for each adoption are different and the way the adopted child receives the reality of it all can't be predicted. The truth is there is grief in adoption. Life is fragile. Children are fragile. Understanding 'the why' for many children is difficult to wrap their little minds around and is potentially a lifelong challenging process. It is heartbreaking that adopted children are faced with such a reality. But while pain is a reality in adoption, there is also so much hope for healing. Life is full of pain whether adoption related or not and God is forever faithful. I trust His invitation on every life and His desire that none would perish but that all would experience His everlasting love. Every life needs the healing love that only God can provide. Praying healing over each one of my precious children for the peace of God to redeem their brokenness.
Christmas week God blessed our family with the addition of a wonderful little boy! It certainly was a very special Christmas for our family. We feel richly blessed to share in P's life as his parents. Praising God for His great faithfulness in our home. And praying, once again, for great wisdom!
Just thought I'd update you with the news that we are officially waiting!
Our homestudy is complete and we are officially an approved adoptive home.
It's exciting to be another step closer in the process!
Now we await the call.